It can be assumed that armed conflicts within communities cause many and various forms of collective grief. The quality of collective grief processes defines the actors' view on change, activity and otherness. Their theory helps to precise the conditions for a growing conscience of being author and actor, both individual and collective, of one's own becoming; the conditions, too, for a full respect of otherness. As recognition plays a crucial role in the elaboration of collective grief, its indicators are the most likely to identify the presence or absence of the conditions required for the process of collective grieves. Such indicators will be defined. This kind of evaluation should be led simultaneously at the level of the donors, of the local NGOs and of the professionals and volunteers directly involved in the field work.